In spite of all of our preventative measures, she calculates when one of us is going to open the door and she will tear past us into the enticingly tom cat sprayed backyard. She will chase butterflies, smell the corner of our brick where our neighbor's cat Tuxedo likes to piss regularly, and generally pretend that her soft, clawless, flealess, Garfeild-like ass is a wild cat. Then something will spook her and she will be cowering, tail flat on the ground and pawing and mewing at the door for one of us to let her in.
These days I'm feeling very much like our stupid cat. I feel trapped by how domesticated I have become. I was once a wild woman. Free and arrogant and happy with it. I used to suck-it's so clear in retrospect-but I really believed I was amazing and anyone who didn't share my generous vision of myself was simply a douchebag. It was fun. Now I am saddled with two kids, a husband (who I adore and actively WANT) and a cat. There are many many moments when I am utterly in love with my life. Of course they are made sweeter by the many many moments when I am exhausted and covered in a grimy layer of baby food and kiwi's high pitched antics are making me seriously reconsider the kid-farm aka daycare down the road kindly named the 'Kid's Castle'.
However I choose to paint the situation, I am trapped. That sounds negative but I dreamed of this 'trap'. I meticulously built it, wrote songs for it, and prayed for it. So here I am and not surprisingly I regularly get the urge to tear out of this house just like our cat every time someone opens the front door.
And of course, as soon as I do get my breath of fresh air, and let my hair down like a wild woman would, my heart strings start vibrating as soon as I see a baby or a kid or a puppy. I end up grateful to be back at our front door, about to enter my sphere of family smells and love.
My soul is struggling to save itself. It's not as desperate as it sounds-it's a good thing. It's not a bad thing if it loses the battle. To live for ones family is an honorable thing. While I was certainly born to be the mother of these incredible creatures and the lover of the most frustratingly sweet man I've ever known, I owe it to them to maintain the uniqueness of my soul.
So if I have to thrust my son into my husbands chest in order to get that breath of fresh air, I will. I'm not going to work at a menial job just to afford to pay someone else to care for my children, but I will not let myself feel guilty for preserving the woman that my kids will appreciate knowing when they're older.
Like our cat, a short excursion into the wild is sometimes all you need to appreciate the comfort of home. Even if you need to take an excursion every day.